Female orgasm: not just tingles and butterflies!

Everyone has a different idea of what sex should be like, and with ideas come expectations. Some women do not enjoy sex as they overthink things and lose concentration. They do not know how to let loose and indulge in the process of mind and body stimulation.                                                                                                              

Sex does not only entail sexual intercourse but the process seduction and foreplay, woman want to be tempted to want to have sex, we like to know that men find us not just physically attractive but emotionally attractive as well and that they would do anything to cater to our every need and demand. And that entices a woman to want more and in some cases, reach an orgasm.       

                                                                                       

Studies show that 3 out 10 women have never had an orgasm or have had one without even knowing it. Anorgasmia occurs in 10% of women, primarily (they have never experienced), secondarily (orgasm was once experienced in the past), global: (no sort of stimulation has caused an orgasm), situational (orgasm has been experienced in certain sexual situations).                                                                                                                                           

These are some of the myths surrounding female orgasm:

Myth: A woman who cannot reach an orgasm cannot reproduce.                                                             

Fact: The reproduction of women does depend on whether or not she reaches an orgasm; some women do fall pregnant without having an orgasm. It mainly depends on the ovulation period of a woman if she can fall pregnant.

Myth: A woman who does not orgasm does not enjoy sex. 

                                                        

Fact: Women enjoy the closeness of intimacy; not reaching an orgasm does not mean their sex life lacks anything, or that their partner is not skillful or nurturing.                                                                                                  

(Courtesy of: http://www.everydayhealth.com/conditions/sexual-health)

80% women do not reach an orgasm through intercourse alone, because most sex positions do not stimulate the clitoris directly but through other kinds of stimulation a woman can reach her peak, like engaging in oral sex or using a vibrator; men should not feel threatened by sex toys as they are there to help them reach a turning point in pleasing their partners.

Men tend to make a mistake of thinking that sex is all about going in and doing the job and getting out. How am I as woman supposed to reach my peak if you do not cater to my needs? What about my satisfaction? I have needs too, cater to them!

                                                                      

Men tend to also forget that sex is not a one way street; you need to communicate with your partner get to know what she likes and doesn’t. Communication is essential in the love making process.                                                                                                        

For some couples the pleasure of sex ends when the male has ejaculated, and most of the time the women is still aroused and wants more, tell him what you want, direct him to where you want it, by doing so you allowing him to cater to your needs. No you not being selfish; you are exercising being a communicative partner.

                    

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