Porn And Intimate Relationships

We all have that one thing that we dislike about porn. But as erotic and sensual as it is it has its own advantages and disadvantages in a relationship, especially to people who are in committed relationships, it can either make or break a relationship. In the early 1980’s going into the 1990’s pornography was seen as a taboo subject. It was either associated with prostitutes or strippers. A person who enjoyed viewing pornography was seen as pervert. Pornography has since evolved and is now no longer viewed as a taboo subject as it was back then. Young men and women today appreciate pornography as an instrumental tool in their sex lives

The number of men and women viewing pornography on the internet has increased since the early 2000’s with more women viewing porn with their male counterparts. Studies show that 58% percent of women who watch porn with their partners say that it has had a positive impact on their intimate relationships, they are able to communicate and direct their partners how they want it done.

But the truth remains that men and women perceive porn differently, women make up images and fantasies in their head, and that is how they perceive porn. As a fantasy that they wish to experience, whilst men get turned on by anything, such as images of naked females, a woman can feel threatened by her man’s enjoyment of these photographs and may think that he is much more enthusiastic about porn then he is about her.

On the internet there are women who oppose pornography as they believe it is degrading to all women and demeans them to anonymous meat. Sex experts and therapists are worried that the viewing of pornography degrades the image of women and makes men have certain expectations in the bedroom. “These expectations being a man ejaculating on a woman’s face or the engaging in anal sex. And they find these routines normal as the watch them in pornography sites” says Doctor David Devlin.

Pornography is like a drug, one can get addicted without knowing the dangers of the addiction. We can count the following symptoms when experiencing an addiction to porn as follows;

• Rejection in relationships and social circles can lead to other, less healthy ways to find sexual gratification.
• Social isolation: Not only does social isolation increase one’s likelihood of seeking inappropriate ways of being sexually gratified, it also leads to a host of other problems—like depression and physical maladies—that can contribute to sex addictions or unhealthy sex behaviors.
• Social learning: Watching others perform a behavior, or “modeling,” is one way to learn something new—especially when you “like” or “identify” with that person. So having a friend, or a group of friends, who engage in excessive sexual activities or porn viewing can influence you in a very subtle, yet powerful, way.                       Courtesy of PsychGuides.com

Even though pornography is addictive there is treatment available when one experiences such symptoms.