We all
have that one thing that we dislike about porn. But as erotic and sensual as it
is it has its own advantages and disadvantages in a relationship, especially to
people who are in committed relationships, it can either make or break a
relationship. In the early 1980’s going into the 1990’s
pornography was seen as a taboo subject. It was either associated with prostitutes
or strippers. A person who enjoyed viewing pornography was seen as pervert. Pornography
has since evolved and is now no longer viewed as a taboo subject as it was back
then. Young men and women today appreciate pornography as an instrumental tool
in their sex lives
The number
of men and women viewing pornography on the internet has increased since the
early 2000’s with more women viewing porn with their male counterparts. Studies
show that 58% percent of women who watch porn with their partners say that it
has had a positive impact on their intimate relationships, they are able to
communicate and direct their partners how they want it done.
But the
truth remains that men and women perceive porn differently, women make up
images and fantasies in their head, and that is how they perceive porn. As a
fantasy that they wish to experience, whilst men get turned on by anything,
such as images of naked females, a woman can feel threatened by her man’s
enjoyment of these photographs and may think that he is much more enthusiastic
about porn then he is about her.
On the internet there are
women who oppose pornography as they believe it is degrading to all women and demeans
them to anonymous meat. Sex experts and therapists are worried that the viewing of pornography degrades the image of women and makes men have certain expectations in
the bedroom. “These expectations being a
man ejaculating on a woman’s face or the engaging in anal sex. And they find
these routines normal as the watch them in pornography sites” says Doctor
David Devlin.
Pornography is like a drug,
one can get addicted without knowing the dangers of the addiction. We can count
the following symptoms when experiencing an addiction to porn as follows;
- Rejection in relationships and social
circles can lead to other, less healthy ways to find sexual gratification.
- Social isolation: Not only does social isolation increase one’s
likelihood of seeking inappropriate ways of being sexually gratified,
it also leads to a host of other problems—like depression and physical
maladies—that can contribute to sex addictions or unhealthy sex behaviors.
- Social
learning: Watching others
perform a behavior, or “modeling,” is one way to learn something
new—especially when you “like” or “identify” with that person. So having a
friend, or a group of friends, who engage in excessive sexual activities
or porn viewing can influence you in a very subtle, yet powerful, way. Courtesy of PsychGuides.com
Even though pornography is
addictive there is treatment available when one experiences such symptoms.
